Couples Therapy – Unpacking Myths and Facts about Couples Therapy

This is, without a doubt, the cliché of this year, but here goes: we live in unprecedented times. As much as we all want to groan when we hear that phrase, it’s also very important to acknowledge the fact that times aren’t normal and we’re all dealing with a combination of challenges, emotions and struggles that we don’t typically have to deal with. This has led to many of us experiencing strains in our relationships that we don’t necessarily know how or where to place. Couples therapy might just be the assistance you need to find the answers you are looking for.

Now, there is often a perception that couples therapy is a last ditch attempt for failed relationships before the parties involved go their own ways. Or something that is done when a couple is considering a divorce. While couples therapy can certainly play a role in these situations, this is but one scenario. This type of counselling is actually much more useful for a variety of partnerships dealing with a variety of situations and challenges. In fact, couples therapy can be a very beneficial activity for the maintenance and strengthening of a healthy relationship.

If you’re still on the fence whether this is a journey that you and your partner should embark upon, here are some myths and facts about couples therapy to help clear out any possible confusion:

Myth: Counselling is only for people in abusive relationships.

Fact: Counselling is just as healthy and useful for happy couples who want to improve understanding, communication and care within their relationship.

Myth: I will get chastised for my behaviour.

Fact: A counselling session is never aimed at blaming a specific party or to point out everything that someone else thinks they are doing wrong. Sure, there may be some uncomfortable truths to face along the way, but ultimately the aim is to empower individuals and couples to develop and use the necessary tools to be better at communication and conflict resolution within their relationship with each other.

Myth: The point of counselling is to fix a relationship.

Fact: Not every relationship can be “fixed”. While reconciliation might be on the agenda, the point of counselling is to provide the individuals involved with some perspective and the necessary tools to work on the challenges they face. The outcome is completely up to the individuals involved.

For more information about couples therapy, and to find out if it is the right course of action for you, contact the office of Dr Tienie Maritz in Pretoria.