5 Ways Marriage Counselling Can Help to Avoid the Pain of Divorce

Divorce ranks as one of life’s most traumatic experiences. Marriage counselling makes it possible to address deep-seated issues, which cause the strain in your relationship that can lead to divorce. It can help you to reconnect with one another and work through these issues.

Before you give up on your relationship, consider the five benefits of marriage counselling in helping to prevent the agony of having to go through a divorce.

  1. Platform for Intimate Communication

Instead of a screaming match every time you attempt to discuss issues with your partner, you have a mediator who helps to facilitate civilised and open communication. It is difficult to break free from old habits of communication when at home. The marriage counselling office provides a neutral territory in which you can communicate without having to deal with angry outbursts or constant interruptions. It provides you with the space you need to progress with discussions, rather than being stagnant in your communication.

You both have opportunities to speak and to listen, thereby creating an environment for compromise.

  1. Conquer the Fear of Failing

Repetitive arguments are often the symptoms of deeper issues. Such issues can relate to fear. If you fail to communicate and address the underlying problems, then you cannot heal wounds. Surface level problems relate to arguments about finances, a lack of intimacy, parental styles, and family matters. Once you get through the surface level issues, you are ready to tackle the emotional hurt, which may cause the symptoms or may be the result of underlying issues.

Rudimentary fears and issues can cripple communication and even lead to a meltdown of the partnership. Marriage counselling can help you to identify the root causes and how such manifest in your relationship. If you are able to solve the root issues, then your arguments could eventually disappear.

  1. Commit to Overcome

You make a conscious decision to improve, collaborate, and prevail. Instead of becoming another victim of miscommunication, you actively work towards reaching a successful outcome. The therapy helps you to triumph over the issues, which in the past have caused the breakdown of communication and trust.

  1. Develop Intimacy and Trust

For any partnership to succeed, there must be trust. This entails being honest and willing to listen. Lack of trust can lead to intimacy issues. Marriage counselling makes it possible to build trust based on honesty. Openness, the willingness to listen, and breaking old patterns help to bring about intimacy.

  1. Forgive and Heal

If your body has a deep wound, it can only heal if the wound is properly cleaned and dressed. Before you can dress it, it must be clean, otherwise it will develop an infection. Simply putting a bandage on without cleaning it and boosting the body’s immune system to fight infection from within is a waste of time. It is the same with relationship issues. You first have to get the dirt cleaned up and then dress the wound. You also need to strengthen the relationship from within by building a solid foundation of communication and intimacy.

Take the first step towards healing and reconnecting. Seek professional marriage counselling help from Dr Tienie Maritz.

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