01forgiveValidate Your Partner’s Feelings

“I understand what you mean. 
You know, that really does make sense.”

 The process of “validating” one another’s feelings and experiences is incredibly important in a marital relationship.  All of us appreciate being on the receiving end of a statement that tells us that another person knows where we are coming from.  How often do you make statements to your partner, such as those comments offered above, to let your husband or wife know that you are making a sincere effort to understand?

 John Gottman, Ph.D