Improve the Quality of Your Life with the Help of one of
the Leading Pretoria Psychologists

No
one needs to tell you that life is filled with its fair share of challenges.
Every day we fight some sort of battle, big or small. At times, we might feel
invincible while, at other times, we struggle to see the light at the end of
the tunnel. This is a very normal and very human experience and everyone goes
through this in some way or another. However, it is so important to realise
that you never need to tackle all of this… Continue reading

Families Under Strain Should Consider Consulting A Family
Therapist

We
are all individuals with our own quirks, habits, and triggers. We have our own
ways of experiencing and dealing with situations. Yet, we never exist on our
own. While this social support structure is usually a positive thing, it can,
at times, lead to challenges and even conflict. This is especially true when it
comes to those we are close to and with whom we spend the most time. Our
families (whether it be blood relatives, adopted, fostered, or chosen) are
usually these people. What is meant to be a… Continue reading

Couples Counselling Can Dramatically Improve the Quality
of Your Life

Relationships
are one of the most beautiful things that can happen in life. At its most
healthy, it is nurturing, comforting, inspiring, and a source of strength.
However, life is not perfect. Daily pressures and stresses take their toll –
from financial worries to health concerns, job stresses, and everything in
between. This bombardment from all sides can lead to frustrations in a
relationship. People change over time and if a partnership does not keep up, it
can lead to miscommunication. Couples
counselling provides a way to address these changes… Continue reading

Breek Vry van die Boeie van Stres met
die Hulp van ‘n Sielkundige in Pretoria

Ons daaglikse lewe is so ’n gejaag dag in en dag uit. Dis
opstaan, kinders regkry vir skool, verkeer aandurf, werk, werk, werk, weer
verkeer, dalk ’n onvervulde huwelik daarby, en nóg ‘n nag van sleg slaap. Klink
dit bekend? Vir té veel van ons is dit ’n roetine. Maar dit hoef nie te wees
nie. Jy kan uit hierdie bose kringloop van ongeluk breek en weer beheer neem
oor jou eie lewe. Dr. Tienie Maritz is ’n sielkundige in Pretoria met ’n geskiedenis van… Continue reading

Rules for a Happy Marriage

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The Marriage Box

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Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better off Financiallyhappy_couple2

by Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher

Married women are 30% more likely to rate their health as excellent or very good compared to single women, and 40% less likely to rate their health as only fair or poor compared to single women. Based on life expectancies, nine of ten married men and women alive at age 48 are alive at 65, while only six of ten single men and eight of ten single women make it to 65. Married men may have better immune systems as well, either from… Continue reading

86492748-617x416Married people live longer. 

Single men have mortality rates that are 250% higher than married men. Single women have mortality rates that are 50% higher than married women (Ross et all, 1990). Having a spouse can decrease your risk for dying from cancer as much as knocking ten years off your life. Single people spend longer in the hospital, and have a greater risk of dying after surgery. (Goodwin et al, 1987)

01forgiveValidate Your Partner’s Feelings

“I understand what you mean. 
You know, that really does make sense.”

 The process of “validating” one another’s feelings and experiences is incredibly important in a marital relationship.  All of us appreciate being on the receiving end of a statement that tells us that another person knows where we are coming from.  How often do you make statements to your partner, such as those comments offered above, to let your husband or wife know that you are making a sincere effort to understand?

 John Gottman, Ph.D

The U-curve of marital satisfaction

There are several studies done over many years which confirm the decline in marital quality and/or satisfaction. The sharpest decline is during the first ten years. There is of course the “highs” of the “honeymoon” years, then the sharp drop in the middle years and then once more an increase in the post-parental years. This is known as the U-curve of marital satisfaction.

The annualized divorce rate also reflects this trend in marital quality, particularly during the first decade. Although 50% of marriages end by the 7th year, there is an increase in quality… Continue reading