14 Warning Signs that You Need Marriage Therapy

Is your marriage taking strain? Are you struggling to communicate with each other, or have you reached the point where you are constantly fighting, bickering, arguing, and competing with each other? While every couple gets married with the intention of staying together forever, not all marriages succeed. Yes, mistakes happen, hurtful things are said, trust is broken and people are left devastated. Whether it is due to abuse, incompatibility, finances, addiction or infidelity, the sad truth is that marriage is not easy and requires hard work.

While marriage is certainly not easy in these modern times, neither is divorce. This parting of ways can go one of two ways: it can either be easy and straightforward or be emotional and financially crippling, especially where money, assets and young children are involved. With that said, if you find your marriage has reached a breaking point, you have two choices: you can either get divorced or you can enter into marriage therapy. If you are apprehensive about marriage therapy or for just in denial – here are 14 warning signs you need marriage therapy:

1. When you are both unhappy.
2. When you have forgotten how to communicate with each other.
3. When your relationship lacks intimacy.
4. When you do not spend time with each other anymore.
5. When you sleep in separate bedrooms.
6. When you do not confide in each other anymore.
7. When you cannot think of anything positive to say to or about each other.
8. When you are both competing with each other.
9. When you fight over insignificant things.
10. When you have both forgotten how to laugh together.
11. When abuse has entered the marriage – physical, sexual, verbal or emotional.
12. When you find it hard to complement each other.
13. When you are thinking of having an affair.
14. When you both feel like it is too late to work things out .

Many married couples experience problems. In fact, many of these problems are not stop signs, but guidelines. You see, anyone can run away, because it is the easiest thing to do. Facing your problems together is what makes you stronger. While it is important to acknowledge how you landed in this predicament, it is even more important to figure out how you are going to move forward. You can either choose to walk away, ignore the warning signs and let things escalate to a greater level of animosity, or you can choose to work things out with marriage therapy.

“Sometimes two people have to fall apart to realise how much they need to fall back together again” – Unknown.

The bottom line is that a healthy marriage makes it through the good, the bad and the ugly times – but it takes hard work and commitment. If you have a marriage that is worth fighting for and are looking to get back to the place where you were both once happy and smitten, then marriage therapy is for you. Do not give up on your marriage. Get together on neutral ground and visit Dr Tienie Maritz in Pretoria. We offer favourable medical aid rates and easy payment plans, so contact us today and allow Dr Maritz to put the spark back in your marriage.